Overly-Fixated vs. Overly-Driven Fun? Isn’t our hedonistic culture already overly-fixated on entertaining ourselves? Yes, but many of us are overly -driven. Those of us who are super-committed to the work we do— who are diligent, determined, and dedicated—run the risk of pushing ourselves too hard for too...
Too much fun?! Hey all you hard-working, goal-oriented, schedule-filled people! All of you who give and give of yourselves around the clock. I've got some good news for you: You need to be having more fun. That may sound strange when you live in a pleasure-oriented culture, where it...
One of the strange realities of life is that we often have to feel worse in order to feel better. This is definitely the case when we grieve a loss. Whether it’s the loss of a pet, a relationship, a hope, a dream, a job,...
What's a gift can you give yourself in 2015 that costs nothing financially but will enrich you for years to come? How about a quiver – full of friends? Friends: A Quiver Is Better Than a Single Arrow I've discovered that most people feel that something is...
A. Hurried B. Busy C. Stressed out D. All of the above If you can put a check next to any of the above, I know a gift you can give yourself! The holiday season is a time many things can make us go a little crazy inside...
Imagine going through each day of your life significantly happier than you are right now. Imagine your light shining more brightly to others. I’m so excited to tell you about my new book that’s just been released: Retrain Your Brain for Joy – 31 Mini-Adventures. It’s...
Who's Imprisoning Whom? "I really want to forgive her but I can't." "He hurt me badly. But now it's hurting me more to not let it go and forgive him." I hear these types of things a lot in my counseling practice. When we're hurt or offended, at...
If you’re like me, you’re going to do a lot of savoring in the weeks ahead. That is, you’re going to enjoy the taste or smell of (something) for as long as possible. You’re going to bask, to enjoy, to relish, to feast your eyes upon. Whether it’s...
Autumn: Time for a Positive New Habit A beauty hunt: I try to do one every week. It not only refuels me, it continually resets the template of my mind toward positivity. Without resetting this template, most of our minds are progressively pulled downward, noticing and...
Babystepping: I love this quote about a small snail, inching her way along, while other animals galloped, ran, and leapt past. Yet, because she was determined, she took tiny, painstaking steps (slithers?) toward her goal, finally arriving there, not being deterred by obstacles or the...